A tree fell on our house and I didn't panic. Here's why.


Hi Reader,

A tree fell on our house.

That’s not a metaphor. A large maple tree literally split and landed on the roof recently.

We had just gotten home from a social event and a date night when our neighbor came over to give us the news. A significant portion of the tree had cracked and fallen—but it was still partially attached, so it hadn’t crashed through. Unlucky… but also kind of lucky that there was no serious rupture on our roof.

This is a stressful event; however...

I didn’t spiral into panic.
I didn’t freeze.
I didn’t crumble into overwhelm.

I told myself and spoke aloud: This is urgent, but it isn't a crisis.

That kind of steadiness doesn’t just happen.
It comes from practice.

When you grow up in a home shaped by addiction, chaos, and unpredictability, your body learns to live in survival mode. You stay on high alert. Even small stressors feel like danger. So when something real happens? Your nervous system goes bonkers (yeah, that's a clinical term).

But when you’ve done the inner work and you have learned to regulate your nervous system, you’re no longer stuck in yesterday’s chaos—and you start responding to current events with steadiness.

Yes, old triggers still get me from time to time, but I’ve built enough internal safety now to say something I never could’ve said a few years ago: “This is urgent, but it’s not a crisis.”

And that’s what this work is about.
Not avoiding emergencies or pretending that stressful events aren't truly stressful—but it's about building a steady internal rhythm so you can meet life with peace, strength, and clarity, including life's little surprises.

I want that steadiness for you too.

That’s why I created THE STEADY LIFE STARTER KIT.

This guide is rooted in my 15+ years of clinical experience and informed by my signature framework—the HEART of Inner-Connection—which helps you shift from isolation and survival mode into a life of greater peace, purpose, and connection.

This isn’t about pretending everything’s fine.
It’s about creating small, doable daily moments that retrain your body and mind to feel safe, grounded, and connected again.

👉 Click here to get THE STEADY LIFE STARTER KIT for $19

Your life doesn’t have to feel like one long emergency.

You deserve to feel steady—even when things fall down around you.

And remember, you are always loved—no matter what.

warmly,

Sherri

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